Experimenting with My Human Design Strategy
I recently learned about my Human Design, and let’s be honest—I hate it. Finding out I’m a Projector feels like I’ve been doing my whole life wrong. According to this system, the strategy for Projectors is to “wait for the invitation” before stepping in, guiding, or initiating anything. But I’ve spent most of my life doing the opposite.
I’ve always been the initiator. I was the one who asked boys out, invited friends to things, and pushed for recognition and appreciation in my career. I thrived on initiating because, deep down, I felt like if I didn’t push for what I wanted, I would be forgotten, overlooked, or left behind.
Waiting for things to happen felt impossible. And when I did wait, it wasn’t with ease—it was with a bubbling tension beneath the surface. So when people finally did ask for my help or guidance, I burst like a balloon, releasing all my pent-up frustration and energy in ways that didn’t always land well.
But my husband actually reminded me of something important: there have been times in my life when I waited, and I felt deeply appreciated for it. Like my current job. I didn’t push for it—it came to me, and I felt so seen and valued. And just recently, I was promoted, completely out of the blue, with no expectation on my part. That feeling of being recognized without having to push for it was powerful. Maybe there’s merit to this whole idea of waiting for the right invitation.
What if I’m not supposed to be the one pushing for recognition, organizing every plan, and seeking validation? What if waiting for the right invitation would allow my life to unfold more naturally, with less bitterness, less exhaustion, and less frustration?
Why Human Design Felt Like a Shock to the System
At first, it felt like Human Design was pointing out all the ways I’ve been getting it wrong. Projectors, I learned, aren’t supposed to initiate. We’re meant to wait until we’re invited to offer our guidance, wisdom, or energy. And that felt counterintuitive to everything I’ve done my whole life.
The idea of waiting for an invitation felt passive, frustrating, and, honestly, a little disempowering. I’d built a life on making things happen, so the idea of stepping back and trusting that the right invitations would come felt like letting go of the steering wheel in my own life.
But the more I thought about it, the more I realized that maybe this struggle to initiate everything on my own was part of the problem. I’ve often found myself feeling burnt out, unseen, or frustrated when my efforts weren’t appreciated in the way I hoped. The truth is, no matter how much I pushed, I was always chasing recognition that never felt like it was enough. And maybe that’s because I was offering my energy in places where it wasn’t really invited or valued.
My 6-Month Experiment: Embracing a New Role
So here’s what I’m going to do: I’m embarking on a 6-month experiment (Oct 14 - Apr 14) to see what happens if I truly wait for the invitation. I want to see how my life shifts when I stop initiating and allow things to unfold more naturally.
This experiment isn’t about passivity. It’s about recognizing that I’m not meant to be the one constantly pushing things forward. I want to explore what it feels like to step into a different role in my own life—one where I conserve my energy for the right moments, the right people, and the right opportunities.
Will I lose the bitterness I’ve carried from over-giving and under-receiving? Will I feel more seen and appreciated when I offer my energy only when it’s truly invited? Will my relationships change? Will I lose friends or gain deeper, more aligned connections? These are the questions I’m hoping to answer over the next six months.
What Does It Look Like to Wait for the Invitation?
Waiting for the invitation doesn’t mean sitting back in a passive state. For me, it means trusting that the right people will recognize my value without me having to constantly prove it. It’s about stepping back and allowing space for others to come to me, rather than constantly extending invitations and over-giving in relationships.
This shift feels both freeing and terrifying. I’ve spent so much time trying to drive the dynamics in my relationships, believing that if I didn’t make things happen, nothing would. But what if that’s not true? What if by holding back, I actually create space for deeper, more meaningful invitations?
I also wonder what will happen when I stop inviting others. I’ve always been the one initiating plans, extending invitations, and trying to keep friendships alive. But what happens if I invite less? Will people feel abandoned, or will they come to me when they’re truly ready for the connection I offer?
What I Hope to Learn
At the end of this experiment, I hope to learn a few key things:
Will I lose that sense of frustration and bitterness that’s come from constantly initiating and not feeling appreciated?
Will I see a change in my relationships? Will I lose friends who aren’t aligned with this more natural flow of energy? Will I gain new friends who resonate with who I really am?
Will people feel abandoned or disconnected if I stop inviting them into my life, or will they step up when they’re truly ready for the connection?
What does it look like to accept a different role in my own life, one that feels more aligned with my energy as a Projector?
Letting Life Unfold More Naturally
The idea of waiting for the invitation feels uncomfortable, like letting go of the steering wheel. But maybe that’s exactly what I need to do. I’m ready to see what happens when I trust the process a little more and push a little less. I’m ready to explore what unfolds when I step back, conserve my energy, and allow the right invitations to come to me, rather than constantly chasing them.
I’m sharing this experiment not just to hold myself accountable but because I think so many of us, even those who aren’t Projectors, feel that pressure to initiate, to push, to drive your life into the ground. And maybe, just maybe, we’ll find that letting life unfold naturally brings us exactly what we need—without all the extra effort.
Here’s to waiting for the invitation—and seeing what happens next.
